Happy Holidays: Look and Receive

Merry Christmas! I hope that you are enjoying your holiday so far. I’ve been sick with a terrible cough that just won’t quit, and I’d like to say that while everyone around me has been hustling and bustling, I’ve been pondering the true meaning of Christmas, but mostly I’ve been on the couch, flipping through…

Why Vulnerability Means Freedom

Putting my thoughts in writing for strangers to read is completely out of my comfort zone. I don’t think that I’ve felt quite this vulnerable in such a long time. But since I write about small steps and being brave, I should be the first to take my own advice. So I am just focusing…

When the Success of Others Make You Unhappy

When I shared my love of writing with people, it was so contagious. People would say, “I wanna write a novel too.” Inside I wanted to say, “No, no, that’s my dream! Find your own dream!” But imitation is supposed to be one of the sincerest form of flattery, right? So why was I feeling this…

What Would it Be Like?

Sometimes a large chasm exists between where we are at in life and where we want to be. And when we’ve come from a place of struggle, or we experience failure after failure, it’s difficult to imagine a better place. If this is you, then you aren’t alone. Many people feel this way, but they…

Small Moments of Joy

There are events that stand as landmarks such as getting your driver’s license, graduating from school, landing that big break, getting married or having a baby. These events are like rites of passage. And they help us to know when we’ve reached a different point in our lives—where a new journey begins. It can be…

Lazy Days

I’ve been under the weather lately, and I’ve been so lazy about everything, about writing, about eating, about exercising, and especially about singing. It’s too hard. So, in my practice, I’ve made no efforts whatsoever–barely opening my mouth and my eyes or holding my head up straight. Everything you’re not supposed to do. Can you…

Agents, Men and Rejections Galore

Within an hour of sending my query to an agent, I received a rejection. Isn’t that fabulous? Okay, you’re wondering if I’m joking, aren’t you? But I’m actually dead serious. Now, I’m not saying I don’t get sick all over and want to hideaway forever, because I do. But learning to be grateful when the door is shut…

Michelle Assad’s Breaking Cover: Gratitude Amid the Struggle

I’ve heard of people saying how grateful they were for difficult trials, and honestly, I never really understood this. Were they kidding themselves, in denial or flat out lying through their teeth? But when I read Michelle Rigby Assad’s book, Breaking Cover, a memoir of a southern bell turned CIA agent, I really believed her….

Defying the Law of Entropy

Here’s a thought: when you’re sick or struggling with trauma—or let’s just be real here—when you’re a human being, getting your brain to do things evenly and orderly is difficult. It takes work and effort. We want flow, and we want things to fall naturally. But too much flow is chaos and entropy, and too…

5 Things to Reduce Stress and Prepare You in Emergencies

My mother who has seen quite a few emergencies is always urging me to do these things, so I thought I’d pass the love along as a reminder: Have cash on hand—Carrying some cash on you, in your car and in your house can be a life-savor. If you don’t have much to spare have at…